Speak it Into Existence

Speak It Into Existence

Speak it into existence

Proverbs 18:21 says, “The Power of Life And Death is in the tongue”

Albert Einstein says “Everything is Energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you can not help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is no philosophy. This is Physics.”

I say 🙂 ,  “Your Happiness depends on the thoughts you think and the words you speak! Your words have POWER so choose to Speak Life over yourself, LIFE over your circumstances, LIFE over your finances, LIFE over your family! Those dreams and Desires that you are ready to Manifest are ready to burst through for you if you will really believe in them and Speak them into Existence!

            On a very personal level, this same power of intention and this practice of speaking my desires into existence attracted my husband into my life! Honest to goodness, this time last year (December 2014) the wonderful man who is, now, my husband was not even on my radar!!! #TrueStory

          However, as a good friend and I were recently discussing……. “It doesn’t take God long to work!”

            My husband and I have known OF each other for a while (we are both from Mississippi, both graduated from Mississippi State University, know people in common, etc), but had just one very brief, casual, in-passing introduction about 9 yrs ago. The funny part is that to this very day I honestly have no recollection of that introduction (Sorry babe lol)!!

No worries, his feelings aren’t hurt that I don’t remember that conversation!

           Last summer (summer 2014) I got really serious about my true desires for a husband. I had been praying for my husband (having no clue who he would be) since I was 20 years old, but decided to write down my desires and then start speaking them into existence!

           Everyday, before Lionel and I ever had our first REAL conversation in 2015 (at least the first one I can remember…Ha! ) I would repeat over and over to myself “I AM a Wonderful Wife”, “I AM a Wonderful Wife” and daydream about having a wonderful husband and being a Wonderful Wife!

           Writing down my desires and then declaring that “I AM a Wonderful Wife” everyday activated my Faith to another level!!

          I found a ring in my jewelry box one day during spring cleaning that I had purchased years ago and since it resembled an engagement ring, I placed it on my bedroom dresser (On his side, before I know who he would be!!). That ring served as a reminder for me to pray for my husband every day!

          I also took a bouquet of artificial flowers out of a vase I had purchased years ago, dusted them off and placed them next to the ring on the dresser in my bedroom.

          I literally filled my home with the word “LOVE”! I bought a pillow that says “LOVE” for my living room couch, bought a canvas with the word “LOVE” and placed it on the wall at the very entrance of my home. The word “LOVE” was taped to my fridge, my bathroom mirror, the wall in my office at work…..Everywhere lol!!!

         I chose my Themes for 2015 to be LOVE and FAITH!! Let me declare to you today that IT IS NO coincidence that 2015 has been the year that I chose LOVE and FAITH to be my 2 themes for the year – the themes I think about, pray about, meditate about day-in and day-out AND that 2015 has also been the year that my, now husband, and I had our first real conversation, started dating, got engaged and got married – ALL OF THIS IN 2015!!

          In the summer of 2014, I wrote down a list of 31 core desires I had for my husband. Once Lionel and I connected and began having marathon-long phone calls every day (one of our very first phone convos lasted almost 7 hours long!), I realized there was something very special about him. God actually spoke to me after our first multi-hour long conversation and told me that I had just had my first conversation with my husband. Seriously, clear as day, I heard God impart this into my spirit as I was climbing into bed that night. I chuckled and smiled and said out loud “Ok Lord, if I’m hearing what I think I’m hearing, please make this very obvious to me!”

          Now, back to the core desires list ——–> One by one, I started checking those desires off the list that Lionel met. I quickly realized that he was the physical manifestation of that list! There was no particular reason for having 31 items on that list. I actually initially stopped at 30 because it’s an even number and I kinda have a thing for even numbers (LOL), but then decided to throw in an extra one for kicks and giggles that says, “And oh yeah……he loves great music and loves to dance!” God definitely has a sense of humor because even though #31 wasn’t a deal breaker, He gave it to me anyways! Anyone who has ever hear my husband sing knows how great of a musical talent he is! We both love great music, love attending concerts together and dancing together!!

             I’ve always dreamed of a fairy-tale proposal……..one I would never forget and one that held significant meaning! In my many conversations to God about my husband over the past year and a half (when I really got serious about this thing!), I communicated to God that I did not want a physical relationship with any from that point on other than with the man who would be my husband! I was tired of dating as usual. I was tired of listening to what the “world” tells us we need to do to get and keep a man. I was tired of it because I knew that was not what God was imparting into my spirit!

          Well, once again, just a couple of weeks after our first marathon-long conversation, I received what I prayed for!

The VERY 1st time (my now husband) Lionel ever touched me was to put the engagement ring on my finger and ask me to marry him – The VERY 1st time!

Carmen and Lionel

Our Wedding Day in San Juan, Puerto Rico – August 2015

          Because I had prayed for Lionel for so long, when he presented into my life I immediately recognized him to be that person God sent to me! Lionel says the same. He surrendered to God and asked God to show him who he was supposed to be with instead of him trying to figure it out on his own.

          My husband is such a wonderful blessing and gift from God. He is the man I have prayed about for so long and is a manifestation of my core desires for a husband. In the natural, I never would have imagined this time last year that I would be very happily married right now. However, my Spirit told me differently! My Spirit constantly reminded me of one of my favorite verses in the Bible – Psalm 37:4 that says, “Delight yourself in The Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart”. My Spirit also reminded me that the Word gives us authority, as believers, to “speak those things that are not as though they already were” (Romans 4:17)!! I also prayed for an Ephesians 3:20 husband – a husband who is exceedingly, abundantly above all I can ask or think, and guess what…..God delivered that to me as well!

          Words have real power!! Use them to speak life and love and blessings over your own life right now!! Your words activate your faith!! I hope my story encourages you to start speaking what’s important to you over your life every single day!

So, today, begin to say:

❐ I am AWESOME!

❐ I am BLESSED!

❐ I am RESOURCEFUL!

❐ I am STRONG!

❐ I am COURAGEOUS!

❐ I EXPECT things to work out in my favor!

❐ All Good things come to me today!

❐ My Dreams and Desires are coming true for me!

❐ I AM ______________________________ (Fill in the blank for what you desire)

Dr Carmen April Speaker          Dr. Carmen April is an entrepreneur and community leader recognized as a 2014 Nashville Emerging Leader Award (NELA) Winner, a 2013 Nashville Business Journal Top 40 Under Forty Award Recipient and is a 2014 Graduate of the New Leaders Council Institute – Nashville Chapter.  Dr. April is available for speaking engagements on Leadership and Life Leadership for College Students and Young Professionals.

You can follow her daily #Leadership insights on Twitter @DrCarmenApril

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FAITH: My 2nd Theme for 2015

FAITH:

My 2nd Theme for 2015

 

Dr Carmen April Love

 

          If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I select a “THEME” for each year and in 2015 I could not just narrow it down to just 1 theme so I chose 2! The first theme was LOVE (click here to see that post) and the second is what I’m revealing today —> FAITH!

          Both of these themes have had more of an impact on my life this year than I ever could have imagined! The combination of FAITH and LOVE brought to fruition in my life the following: A deeper relationship with God my Creator and Jesus my Savior, Financial Increase in my business, meeting, falling in love with and marrying the man of my dreams (yes, all in the same year lol!), and learning to look at every situation that occurs in my life through new lenses of LOVE and FAITH and the endless possibilities they present!

          Back in August I was the Keynote Speaker at an Empowerment Dinner during the Men & Women of Color Conference at my Alma Mater, Mississippi State University. I spoke heavily about how LOVE and FAITH can be used to excel personally and professionally. Below is an excerpt of what I said about FAITH to the audience during that speech:

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“At itʼs most basic definition – FAITH is COMPLETE trust or Confidence in someone or something.

          The reason I chose FAITH as my 2nd Theme for 2015 is that there are a couple of major things I wanted to manifest in my life this year and in order for those things to come into being….I had to have total FAITH that they would come about! In order to manifest what you want in life, you have to have FAITH – a Confidence to make those things come to pass.

When I talk about FAITH, I use a concept of “Seed. Time. Harvest” {OR} “Ask. Believe. Receive” to describe the Process of FAITH because, yes, there is a process!

          Think of a farmer. A farmer plants his or her seeds and when that farmer plants those seeds, he or she EXPECTS that the seeds will produce a harvest. Correct? The farmer does not wander around worrying IF their harvest is going to come! They expect that when they plant those seeds, they will see a harvest in due time!

          You plant corn seeds, you expect corn to grow. When you plant watermelon seeds, you expect watermelon to grow.

           Furthermore, when you plant corn seeds, you DONʼT expect watermelon to grow…..but Iʼm gonna come back to that in a minute!

         In between that “seed-planting” and harvesting is a little something called TIIIIIIIIIIME! Itʼs during this “time period” that we tend to get impatient and may even lose FAITH in some of our dreams.

          Whatʼs funny is that the “Seed. Time. Harvest.” Concept really looks more like this —> Seed. Time. Time. Time. Time Time Time Time Time Time Time Time Time. Harvest. LOL

          However, get in the mindset of an experienced farmer – when they plant something, they have FAITH and fully expect that it will harvest into exactly what they expect. When you are working toward your dreams, have FAITH that just as you are putting in the work to make your dreams come true, you will reap what you sow.

          Back to the reference I made a minute ago about planting one thing and expecting something else to grow. You cant plant corn seeds and expect tomatoes to grow. In similar regard, you canʼt half-way work at your goals and dreams and expect success. Once again, you reap what you sow.

Ask. Believe. Receive —> That “believing” part is where your FAITH comes into play!

          Please know that other people believing in your dreams or not is NOT a requirement for your dreams to manifest in your life! YOU have to have FAITH that your dreams will come to fruition! You have to have FAITH that as long as you are trying your very best to add positivity to the world, that the Universe will support you in it!

          You and only you are responsible for having FAITH that will move mountains! FAITH that will allow you to be the head and not the tail! FAITH that will cause you to lend and not borrow! FAITH that will allow you to achieve your dreams and encourage someone else along the way! FAITH that now matter where you started or under what circumstances you were born into, you can achieve your dreams NO MATTER WHAT!

FAITH! FAITH! FAITH!

          FAITH that says that even if your family doesnʼt believe in you, youʼre going to accomplish your dreams anyways! FAITH that stops the haters in their tracks!!

          FAITH that tells you that sometimes itʼs better to keep your mouth closed about your dreams than to tell them to every Tom, Billy Bob and Joe that will listen! Not everyone around you is really there to support you. Be careful of dream-killers – they can sometimes be disguised as people in your very own camp!

          FAITH in my strength and abilities is what pushed me to start my own medical practice at just 30 years old!

          Sometimes I look back on that start-up period of owning my practice and laugh because of how amazing it was! One of the reasons I was able to start my practice the way I did is because I had TOTAL and COMPLETE FAITH that I could do it!! I donʼt remember doubting myself for even one second during that entire process – I had crazy FAITH. I knew there would be minor hick-ups along the way, but I never lost FAITH, even for a little bit, that I could do it!

          Now, over 4.5 years, later my practice is growing and is stronger than ever. Most small business take at least 5 years to become consistently profitable but, Praise be to God, Iʼve already turned that corner prior to the 5 year mark! My FAITH brought that dream of mine to pass!

          Every morning when I rise I give thanks for life and love, health, and family, increase in my business & finances and for waking up in my right mind! I have FAITH that in spite of all the things happening around me that may be out of control, I’m in tune with my Creator who has the power to make everything work together for my good!”

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          There are daily examples of times when I don’t have the answer and don’t know what to do next. However, that’s where my FAITH steps in! I surrender my way to my Creator’s way and ask, “God, what’s the next right move?”

          Our Faith is perfected in those times when we can’t see a way out, can’t figure out a solution, but when we let go and trust anyhow.

          My family lost one of dearest members this summer. My cousin Dorsey Philander Hamlin, just 45 years old with a wife, 2 kids and a huge family of us who loved him, went on to live for eternity with our Father in Heaven back in June. It happened unexpectedly. He was in a car accident on a Wednesday morning. I talked to him that same day as well as the following day after he was released from the hospital and he praised God for protecting him in that car accident. He told me that he felt fine and walked away from the accident with just a cut on his forehead that didn’t even need stitches.

Philander Collage

My cousin, Philander, was there to support me during many of my greatest accomplishments and celebrations

           Earlier that week he had even shared a couple of pictures of me and my, then fiance and now husband, on his Facebook page…something he never really did – share pictures of other people on his page. I jokingly asked him to what we deserved that honor and he told me he shared our photos because he loved us being together and loved seeing how happy and in-love we are with each other. That literally made my heart smile because I knew he didn’t normally do that 🙂

          The day after my cousin was in that car accident and seemed absolutely fine to everyone, he went to sleep that Thursday night and never woke up Friday morning. Just typing this story right now with tears in my eyes is bringing back up all those emotions of hurt, confusion, pain and sadness. There is not a single day that goes by that I don’t think about my cousin. He loved the Lord so much. Everyone who knew him knew how much he loved the Lord. Our entire family has changed forever since his physical presence left us, but my FAITH in God reassures me that death is just a continuation of life, a re-arrangement of sorts, and that the legacy of love and faith my cousin leaves with us will never die.

          I have had conversations with God since this happened and humbly poured out my heart to Him because of the sadness I was trying to work through. I’ve told God that even though I will probably never understand why my cousin departed this physical life so young, and so suddenly and with seemingly so much more of a wonderful life to live, I have complete FAITH in Him that He doesn’t make any mistakes. There’s no doubt in the minds of anyone who knew my cousin, that his soul is resting with the Lord now!

           There are some events that happen in this life that we may never have understanding of the “Why” or “How”, but I’m certain that I know “Who” can fix all the broken pieces when we can’t and when we can’t see a way to do it ourselves.

             As sad as writing this story about my cousin made me all over again, I tell it because, yes, Faith is about believing in a Power greater than ourselves, having boldness in what we ask of our Creator and expecting greatness in life. However, it’s also about pushing through the gut-wrenching pain of loss, loneliness and heartache and choosing to believe that the sun will shine again. Besides, Philander loved life and his family and would never want us walking around sad and heartbroken! I can just hear him saying, “None of us comes here to stay so you better have your house in order and be ready when The Lord calls you home!”

            Exercising my faith has come in many, expected and unexpected forms this year and it now makes sense why God laid it on my heart this time last year to choose the words Faith and Love as my themes for the year!

           Faith in Love and a LOVE of Faith are two powerful combinations that will give you peace that surpasses all understanding……..if you are open to receive them 🙂

Dr Carmen April Speaker

          Dr. Carmen April is an entrepreneur and community leader recognized as a 2014 Nashville Emerging Leader Award (NELA) Winner, a 2013 Nashville Business Journal Top 40 Under Forty Award Recipient and is a 2014 Graduate of the New Leaders Council Institute – Nashville Chapter.  Dr. April is available for speaking engagements on Leadership and Life Leadership for College Students and Young Professionals.

You can follow her daily #Leadership insights on Twitter @DrCarmenApril

Stay Open to Love

Stay Open to Love

Miracle is on its way

           Love is our highest Power! It is limitless and we can freely give it to everyone and everything we see, encounter and think about! We have the power to sprinkle everything we see and think of on a daily basis with love…….and we will never run out of having more love to give! I LOVE that 🙂 !!!!!

          God is Love. He is the creator of love and commands us to love one another. Again, He gives it to us for free and in an unlimited supply to share with others! Because God is the Creator of Love and He is Love, sharing Love with others draws us closer to Him. It is positive energy that, when shared with others, comes back to us Multiplied!! Miracles will , no doubt, manifest when we choose to follow this great principle.

The more we give, the more we receive!

1 Corinthians 13:13 “Three things will last forever– faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”

Dr Carmen April Speaker          Dr. Carmen April is an entrepreneur and community leader recognized as a 2014 Nashville Emerging Young Leader Award Winner, a 2013 Nashville Business Journal Top 40 Under Forty Award Recipient and is a 2014 Graduate of the New Leaders Council Institute – Nashville Chapter.  Dr. April is available for speaking engagements on Leadership and Life Leadership for College Students and Young Professionals.

You can follow her daily #Leadership insights on Twitter @DrCarmenApril

Eat. Pray. Dream. in Puerto Rico

Eat. Pray. DREAM. In Puerto Rico

Dr Carmen April Pray Dream

            I recently took an impromptu trip to one of the most fabulous places I’ve ever been – San Juan, Puerto Rico!! Puerto Rico is pure Paradise! The island, the people, the food, the music, the air, the ocean, the beaches, everything there is beautiful!!

           At the end of 2014, as I was preparing to develop my “Theme for 2015”, I declared that I would go someplace out of the country that I’ve never been before. I’ve long desired to visit Puerto Rico (for the past 10+) years but between school, residency, and starting my own medical practice I simply could not find the time to take the trip. However, I needed a vacation and was determined to take it one way or another!!

            I was talking with a good friend one day and mentioned to her that I wanted to vacation in a place I’ve never visited before. When she told me she could use a vacation too we both agreed on Puerto Rico and it was GAME ON lol! It’s was less than a month’s time from when I bought my plane ticket and booked the hotel till’ I had my feet in the sand on the beach in San Juan!

See, those are my feet in the sand (lol)……….

Toes in Sand Puerto Rico

           This was such an awesome vacation because there was no over-thinking it. There was no agenda, no itinerary. We didn’t decide what we would do or where we would go each day until the morning of. I had no intention of packing so much into my vacation that I needed a vacation from my vacation once I got back to Nashville!

The whole purpose of this vacation was to relax my mind, body, and soul………

Dr Carmen April Ritz Carlton SpaI also spent an entire day at the Ritz Carlton spa relaxing, meditating and dreaming 🙂

I declared this trip to be an Eat. Pray. DREAM. Vacation

           I’ve been practicing Mindfulness Meditation for about a year now and it has changed my life! Purposefully taking the time out each and every day to clear my mind of all the clutter and chatter has brought more peace and serenity into my life than I’ve ever had. Water and the sounds of the ocean and the beach are extremely calming to me as well. I use an iPhone app called “Calm” when I’m doing my Mindfulness Meditation and it allows me to set a timer within the app and listen to sounds of the ocean, rain drops falling on leaves, etc. I simply focus on being calm and happy and feeling Love within my being. This is the 1st part of my meditation and I aim for at least 20-30 minutes of this per day.

          The 2nd part of my meditation is to draw into my psyche those core desires of my heart. I literally DREAM – creating images and scenes in my mind of those things I desire most in my life!

I’ve said it here on my blog before and I’ll say it again THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS!!!!!!

I repeat: Thoughts Become Things!

            Those things we consistently hold as images in our minds become our reality!! This applies to both positive and negative images/thoughts so be very careful of the things you allow to take up residence in your mind!

             The 3rd part of my daily Mindfulness Meditation involves GRATITUDE! Gratitude is a very special key that unlocks the door to unlimited blessings in our lives! The more we are grateful for the things we currently have and enjoy, the more things, opportunities and experiences The Creator gives us to be grateful for! This part of the meditation is actually something I do during a set time AND continuously throughout the day, thanking God for everything from the water I use to brush my teeth when I first get up in the morning, to my feet that get me everywhere I need to go, to being grateful for all of the important people in my life. I literally say “Thank you Lord for _______ (fill in the black) and concentrate on the feeling of gratitude for whatever it is.

So on this trip to Puerto Rico, my plan was to:

Eat great food

Pray

Dream

            Every morning I would lay in the bed listening to the sounds of the ocean outside my window and thank God for the ocean and the water and the beach and the people on the beach and the sun and the clouds and the comfortable hotel I was staying in and the ability to live and move and have my being……….

Dr Carmen April Puerto Rico

             I would get up and get dressed and head outside to the hotel patio overlooking the ocean and let the sounds of the ocean clear my mind of any chatter. I would thank God for life and LOVE and I would DREAM! I literally closed my eyes and day-dreamed about things and opportunities I clearly wanted to manifest in my life. There are things I have been praying about for a long time and fulling trusting God to bring to pass in my life. I was determined to use this opportunity in one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever been to get very clear about those things and manifest them into existence!

           Raise your virtual hand if you were a chronic “day-dreamer” growing up? I WAS!!!! Were you ever told in school to stop day-dreaming in class and pay attention to the teacher? I’m guilty again lol

            I’ve always been a dreamer, but didn’t realize the enormous power of literally taking the time to intentionally dream until a couple of years ago. This came about through a self-assessment when I realized that every good thing I’ve ever dreamed about and really desired to have in my life, I have obtained or achieved! My parents were right when they told me as a young girl that I can do anything I put my mind to. As a kid I believed it (good thing I did), but as an adult I really realize the pure power in that statement!!!!

            My life as changed in immeasurable ways since this Eat. Pray. DREAM. Vacation and I will talk more about some of those things in more detail in an upcoming blog post. What I will say is that the MAIN thing I intended to manifest through my daily meditations on this trip came to fruition!!

            So, this is just the first of many Eat. Pray. DREAM. trips for me!! There are ideas brewing in my head on how to include others in on these adventures in the future. I’ve had quite a few people asking me to start hosting and teaching workshops on the subjects of Mindfulness Meditation and Manifesting desires.  It’s simply an idea and vision in my head right now, but I’ve been thinking about it for a while so it’s bound to become reality sooner than later lol! I know how much this daily Mindfulness Meditation practice as helped me and how this Eat. Pray. DREAM. trip changed my life and I would love to share that knowledge with others!

Until next time……Eat. Pray. DREAM!

Dr Carmen April Speaker          Dr. Carmen April is an entrepreneur and community leader recognized as a 2014 Nashville Emerging Leader Award (NELA) Winner, a 2013 Nashville Business Journal Top 40 Under Forty Award Recipient and is a 2014 Graduate of the New Leaders Council Institute – Nashville Chapter.  Dr. April is available for speaking engagements on Leadership & Life Leadership for College Students and Young Professionals.

You can follow her daily #Leadership insights on Twitter @DrCarmenApril

And The Greatest of These is Love

…..And The Greatest of These is Love

Dr Carmen April Love

Three things will last forever – Faith, Hope, and Love; and the Greatest of these is Love” –

1 Corinthians 13:13

          My first blog post for 2015 discussed an activity that I’ve been doing the past couple of years which is to declare a particular word/theme for the year. Once I select the word/theme I meditate on it everyday throughout the year. I create a colorful poster with the word written in the center of it and have it hanging on my bathroom mirror, refrigerator and in my office. I pray that God opens my eyes and teaches me what He wants me to learn through a focus on and understanding of the theme I have chosen.

          At the end of 2014 I prayed over what my “Theme for 2015” would be and God revealed two words to me. When I say that God revealed these words to me, I mean that He really revealed these words to me – everywhere I looked, in things I read, conversations I had with people, things I saw on TV, and what continued to come up in my spirit during my prayer and meditation time, were these two words consistently! Because I was obviously on a positive frequency with these two words, I realized that God was trying to speak to me through both of them. Therefore I couldn’t just choose 1 word…..I had to go with 2!

I didn’t reveal the words then, but I’m revealing the first one today and the other in a couple of months!!

LOVE

 Dr Carmen April Love

           To say that the word LOVE continuously came up in my spirit during the time that I asked God to reveal to me my Theme for 2015 is a huge understatement lol! I even found this sweater during a “random” shopping trip to the mall (I put the word “random” in quotations because I don’t believe in coincidences……..everything happens for reason!)

           We tend to focus so much on Romantic Love that we tend to forget about the many other dimensions of Love. God is Love, is the Creator of love, created us in love, to experience love and to share love.

           Since I have begun to look at more of my daily interactions, “goings-on” and activities through a new lens of love, I am more acutely aware of the many miracles that occur in my life on a daily basis 🙂

Dr Carmen April Love

           I plan to feature a couple more posts on love here throughout the year as new revelations are coming to me everyday through reading my Bible, mediation, prayer, and being Mindful of the many miracles that form the basis of my thriving existence here on earth.

          The word LOVE is mentioned hundreds of times in the Bible for a reason. We are called to Love! Scripture tells us that of the three things that will last forever, LOVE is the greatest of them all!!

I’ll end this post with an old Australian Proverb:

“We are just visitors to this time, this place. We are just passing through. Our purpose here is to observe, to learn, to grow, to LOVE…..and then we return home”.

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      Dr Carmen April Speaker     Dr. Carmen April is an entrepreneur and community leader recognized as a 2014 Nashville Emerging Leader Award (NELA) Winner, a 2013 Nashville Business Journal Top 40 Under Forty Award Recipient and is a 2014 Graduate of the New Leaders Council Institute – Nashville Chapter.  Dr. April is available for speaking engagements on Leadership & Life Leadership for College Students and Young Professionals.

You can follow her daily #Leadership insights on Twitter @DrCarmenApril